Wave of light | Pregnancy and Infant loss

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I have lit a candle tonight for all the little ones that have been taken to early from our lives.


This is my memory of our very little one who never made possible the first trimester.

At the age of 19, me and my other half decided that we should have a family together, we had our own flat, I had a good job, we were settled and ready.

I fell very easily, within 1 month actually and we were so happy and couldn't believe it had happened so quickly. Every seemed to be fine and went to my doctor to tell him, we then got referred to a midwife and met her. It felt amazing! 

A few days later while at home, I noticed some spotting, only a little but it got my heart racing. But tried to relax. It started to worsen so I phoned Liam who was concerned.

The next morning we phoned the hospital and they told us to come in for a check, we went straight in for a scan and had bloods taken. The good news was, was that we were pregnant, the bad news was, was that our baby was mesuring three weeks behind what we were meant to be. 

They told us not to get to worked up and sit to wait for the blood results. I tried to be normal and actually went to watch racing the night they were meant to be phoning, just to take my mind off of the situation.

About 8pm that night, I recieved the phonecall of which I can't remember. All I know is that is was not going to be a successful pregnancy. This was the worst possible news. I just broke down.

I felt incredibly numb and blamed myself, and still sometimes do. We went to Liams parents house that night as I could not face going home. It was such a struggle to sleep, he held me until I finally drifted off.

The following days were hard, knowing what the pain and bleeding were for. Unbearable at points.  I was a mess for weeks and still think of our little one often.

We were blessed to be pregnant again six months after and we are very thankful for our Lilly. Our princess! 

XxX

Comments

  1. Ally Messed Up Mum16 October 2015 at 09:02

    I'm so sorry you had to go through this. I've never been through it myself thankfully but know so many who have, so have seen how hard it can be. I'm glad you got your happy ending though xx

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    1. Gigglesinloveable16 October 2015 at 10:35

      Its one of the hardest things I've ever been through. I am more thankful for my Lilly and still have the memory of our first little one x

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  2. Emma16 October 2015 at 10:03

    Thanks for sharing your story. I had a miscarriage too and it so difficult in those early weeks when everything you see reminds you of what you have lost. I am glad you fell pregnant again and we're able to welcome lovely Lilly.

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    1. Gigglesinloveable16 October 2015 at 10:37

      Especially I had to go onto the maternity ward for my scan, hearing babies and seeing so many pregnant people. X

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  3. Unknown16 October 2015 at 10:27

    Thank you for sharing your story. It's never easy - I have been there myself. I am pleased to hear you now have your rainbow baby.

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  4. Unknown16 October 2015 at 11:39

    I'm sorry to hear you went through this. It sounds very similar to my miscarriage experience which was one of the saddest points in my life. I'm glad you got your rainbow baby. It makes them even more special, doesn't it? :)

    Jenna at Tinyfootsteps xx

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    1. Gigglesinloveable16 October 2015 at 12:23

      You certainly appreciate it more. I sometimes wonder what my first would have been like x

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  5. Unknown16 October 2015 at 12:11

    I'm so sorry you went through that lovely. Sending you lots of love and hugs.

    Gemma xx

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  6. Steph16 October 2015 at 20:18

    So sorry you had to go through this hugs xxx

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  7. Unknown16 October 2015 at 22:36

    I'm so sorry for you loss but i'm so happy you now have your rainbow! Cherish every moment with her :)

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